CultureFebruary 28, 2026Latest
Tax Benefits Are Not a Reward for F*cking
Somebody had the audacity to say lavender marriages shouldn't qualify for tax benefits. Sir. Who do you think you are?
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Real talk about lavender marriages, chosen family, and building life on your own terms.
The honest definition, the history, and what modern lavender marriages actually look like — from someone who's been in one for 17 years.
Somebody had the audacity to say lavender marriages shouldn't qualify for tax benefits. Sir. Who do you think you are?
So let me get this straight. You can sleep with someone you met at a bar two hours ago. But I can't love the person I've built a life with for seventeen years?
Not every Mother's Day message starts with flowers and fond memories. Mine doesn't. But here's the truth: the love you missed doesn't define you. The love you choose does.
Barry Diller — billionaire, married to Diane von Fürstenberg for 24 years. Now 82. And gay. Let's just sit in that for a second.
There was a moment — not long ago — when I realized there was no playbook for the life I was trying to build.
If you had told me five years ago I'd be launching LLMA — a platform dedicated to redefining partnerships and chosen family — I would have questioned your sanity.